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You’re looking at (or reading from, technically) a retired people pleaser. I won’t lie and say it’s an easy road, but trust me when I say it’s worth it. Here are five major ways I learned to advocate for myself—and how you can start doing the same.
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5 Healthy Ways To Advocate For Yourself
1. Learn to Say NO
Yeah, you read that right. The dreaded “N” word. This was so hard for me to learn, but I promise, it’s life-changing. You don’t need to say yes to everything to be liked. Saying yes too much dilutes the meaning of your “yes.” When you say no to things that don’t serve you, you start to value your time, and more importantly, so do others.
Try this: The next time someone asks you to do something, pause. You’re allowed to say, “Let me think about it,” instead of answering on the spot. This gives you the space to check in with yourself before committing to something you might regret.
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2. Delay Your Response
This one’s a game-changer. Instead of feeling pressured to answer right away, permit yourself to think it over. Here’s the deal: the world won’t crumble if you take a moment to breathe before giving your answer. A simple “Can I get back to you?” goes a long way.
Pro tip: Saying this gives you the power to assess if the task aligns with your values or if you’re just doing it out of guilt or obligation. More often than not, you’ll find that saying no is freeing. And once you start, it gets easier every time.
3. Prioritize Your Needs
Listen, hun, you need to be at the top of your priority list. Full stop. People pleasers often forget to ask themselves, “What do I want?” So, here’s a quick reality check: If you’re not prioritizing yourself, who will?
Take a few moments each day to ask yourself what’s important to you. It might be as simple as getting more sleep, or it could be making time for a creative project you’ve been putting off. Whatever it is, make space for it.
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4. Set Firm Boundaries
Setting boundaries can feel awkward at first, especially if you’re used to saying yes all the time. But boundaries aren’t walls, they’re more like guidelines. They help people understand what’s okay and what’s not. And here’s the secret: most people respect boundaries once you lay them down.
It’s scary to start, but once you do, people will start seeing the new, empowered version of you, and they’ll adapt. Those who don’t? They probably shouldn’t be in your life anyway.
5. Give Yourself Grace
Let’s face it, setting boundaries and saying no is hard work. And you’re probably going to slip up sometimes. But guess what? That’s okay. Give yourself the grace to be imperfect. Every step you take toward advocating for yourself is progress, no matter how small.
I’ve been there. I still struggle with wanting to make everyone happy, but I’ve learned that my happiness matters too. And once you internalize that, there’s no stopping you.
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Words of Affirmation for People Pleasers
A huge part of advocating for yourself is learning to speak kindly to yourself. Here are some affirmations that helped me:
- I am enough just as I am.
- My voice matters.
- I have the right to set boundaries.
- I deserve to prioritize myself.
- I am worthy of love and respect.
Write these down, or better yet, say them to yourself every day. Trust me, they work.
Wrapping It Up
Let’s be real—being a people pleaser isn’t something you can undo overnight. It’s a process, but the moment you start advocating for yourself, things will change. You’ll feel lighter, more confident, and more in tune with your own needs. Your well-being matters, babe. And by learning to say no, setting boundaries, and prioritizing yourself, you’re doing the most important thing—you’re choosing YOU.
Ready to stop people-pleasing and start living your truth? I’m right here with you, and trust me—it’s a journey worth taking.
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